I Miss Her Old Face

As I scroll through my Tumblr dash this morning, I come across a very recent photo of Courteney Cox. The first words out of my mouth were "I miss her old face". Then I realized, I say that a lot. And what does that say about women in Hollywood and therefore our society today?

Look, we're all born with something fucked up about us. We just are. That's life. I have a lot of those things, but would I actually go get work done to fix them? Probably not.

There was nothing fucked up about Courteney Cox's face. She was beautiful. She was my very first girl crush. I remember the day FRIENDS started back in '94 and I watched it religiously every Thursday. Courteney was my everything. The only thing she's trying to hide her formerly flawless face from is age. Age is something that seems to terrify women and men alike. Why? You know if you get that botox you're still going to be 50 years old right? You know if you buy that Jag you're still the same 52 year old man with a big car payment right?

Now, this is in no way a personal attack on Courteney Cox. While I hate Cougar Town and I think it kind of embodies a lot of what I hate about our society, I still adore Courteney. I think she's funny and adorable and I love her to bits. And there are many people guilty of this, not just her. Lindsay Lohan, who is my age (27) has had what appear to be cheek implants and collagen in her lips. WHY?! I mean, Lohan has a whole host of other problems, but does she really think that looks right? She was gorgeous before. (Also note - Bruce Jenner, Barry Manilow, Lisa Rinna (sp?), etc)

I would estimate 85% of all plastic surgeries to stem from fear. Fear of age, fear of rejection, fear of not being the most attractive. And while men are not immune to this, my concern here is for women.

So I just want to say the following...

Personally, I think plastic surgery to a degree that makes your face nearly unrecognizable is setting women back a bit. Age happens, ladies. We're all gonna get old. But if you take care of yourself and accept the fact that aging is a part of life, your care and confidence will allow you to age gracefully. Who are you getting this surgery for? Is it because you really cannot stand the way you look or is it because you're afraid of what other people will say about how you look? Reflect in and think about it. If you like the way collagen looks in your lips and it makes you comfortable and confident.. then great. But if you like the way collagen looks in your lips because men/women take notice.. you're setting your gender back. If you want to fuck with your face to please yourself, do it. I say fucking go for it. Give yourself a new face. But don't do it for someone else.

You're beautiful as you are no matter what anyone says. It's okay not to feel beautiful and it's okay to have to work your ass off to be what you feel is beautiful. But don't be someone else's version of beautiful.. because then you're living for someone else. Live for you.

Sorry this was more of a serious post today, but it's something that's been kind of bugging me lately.

Boobies.